I'm lesbian and genderfluid btw

I want t confess to my family, but I feel like I'm the very opposite of them. I don't trust them a lot—as they allow my immediate family to abuse and neglect me—but I feel the need to. My family is Pinoy (Filipino), Roman Catholics, and support BBM. For me, this is a bad combination to have in these topics. I'm also Pinoy, agnostic, and an independent in my political stance. Please don't focus on anything political here, I'm looking for advice and that's it. Thank you :3