i fucking can't stand my father when he's mad

Yesterday my family and i went out for dinner in another town, but i had practice back in my hometown (it's literally like a 10-minute drive). Yeah, i know it's partly my fault because i forgot to tell my dad earlier, but i seriously thought we'd be done eating before practice started. Once my mom told him, he kept asking me questions. I had my earbuds in because i was texting my friends, so i genuinely couldn't hear him. Out of nowhere he started raising his voice, asking why i wasn't answering. I said i couldn't hear him, but he just kept going. At that point i was already annoyed, so yeah, my tone wasn't the nicest. Then he yelled, "Take your earbuds off or i'll throw them away." My eyes instantly started tearing up. I grew up getting yelled at over the smallest things, so it really got to me. Later i heard my mom and grandma saying i deserved it because of my attitude. Funny how it's fine when he yells at me, but the second i raise my tone, suddenly i'm the disrespectful one. And guess what? Everyone acted like nothing even happened after we got home.