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my dad has anger issues, and as a teen, I don't know what to do. the slightest bit of inconvenience irritates him, and he usually resorts to insults and degradation. he went as far as to telling me that me being groomed isn't a big deal, and that I shouldn't be so emotional. he always downplays my feelings and telling me that I'm an "adolescent" going through a lot of emotions, so why does he act like they don't matter? he says that he understands, but then he dismisses my feelings like they're just another problem to fix, except that he isn't interested in trying to fix it at all. I don't know how to cope because every time I try to distract myself from what I'm feeling, the dread always comes back after the brief happiness. I never get any reassurance from my parents because my mother isn't any better. I'm empathetic enough to understand that he's trying to be a good father, since my grandfather was way worse. Sure, he doesn't hit me, but I don't think my mental state will get any better because of him constantly telling me that I'm overreacting.