AITA? Mom issues pt.2

Okay so anyways. I just couldn't bear the thought of my mom being with him anymore because it felt so wrong. As a girl, the feminist in me was always screaming everytime she'd contact and meet up with him again. I suffered from very bad mental health throughout this period and felt like I wanted to X, because it was affecting my mom's relationship with my big family and I was ashamed and it affected my relationship with my big family too. So...I told her if she loved me more than him she would break up with him. AITA? Honestly idk why I'm writing this bc genuinely life has started feeling worth living again. I've never been happier with a decision. I just feel a little manipulative and selfish. But I just think of it as being a child and having the right to choose. I was always scared of my mom's state because she seemed so attached to him. She's fine rn though...but god it felt like she hated me those 3 years for wanting her to break up with him. I hated myself everyday. And even the day I gave her the ultimatum. But my relationship with her has genuinely gotten better, and she seems better too, maybe bc our relationship has gotten better. At the end of the day all my mom needs is company. She's a little bit codependent like that. Trying to set boundaries but yes. I will try to be there but I don't want to feel burdened by it. Love her though. It's all in the past though. Tbh, I don't ever have to bring this up to ppl I'm close to, do I? It'll just be a secret for me.